Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome back to my channel. My name is Mallory and thanks for joining me. Today we're going to be talking about roommates and roommate stories I have and also five tips on how to get along with roommates. These five tips will help you to have the best experience possible and also to kind of set the boundaries for your future in that living space. The first thing I want to talk about is boundaries and communication. It's so important to write off the bat when people start moving in, new people or everyone all at once, to just have a little meeting, a little get together and communicate with one another what you are and are not okay with. I had an experience up at BYU-Idaho when I was up there. We kind of all agreed to let each other know when we were expecting other people to come over or if we could have people over late at night to watch a movie, things like that. I was on a date with this guy and he and I wanted to go back to the apartment and watch a movie and I wanted my roommates to join so I texted them making sure it was okay for them to come for it's okay for me and my date to go over and to watch a movie and they said okay and we ended up watching a movie with my roommates. Then all of a sudden one of the roommates who came over she brought all of her friends with her and they were making spaghetti and hot chocolate, apparently that's a thing, anyway and they were being so incredibly loud and obnoxious and it kind of was a damper on all of our relationship at that point because we had already set those boundaries that it was better if we communicated that people were coming over so we ended up having to kick those people out because they were being very rude and it was not okay with my roommate. Of course I would not feel okay with that however I would have warned people ahead of time. So the first thing obviously is to communicate, set your boundaries, let people know what you are and aren't okay with and to kind of let them know the consequences of what will happen beforehand. If that's you need to store all of your stuff in the room if you move other people's stuff around or if we end up having a curfew because you're so loud and it really just depends on the environment and the people you live with so the first thing is to always communicate and set those boundaries ahead of time. The second thing is to have common courtesy it goes along right with the communication and the rules it is super important to keep that in mind especially because if people work early in the morning or have to get up early just be quiet and calm and just courteous to others. Don't take other people's things right out of the fridge or right out of the pantry. If you are hungry maybe ask them ahead of time. I've had some troubles with that in the past and it I can tell you it's really annoying to get home and expect to have your drink your favorite drink there and it's not there because someone took it so that's the second thing is to have common courtesy and again communicate with others. The third tip is to be friendly with your roommates obviously if you're not friendly then it will cause problems and it will cause a fight and if you're passive-aggressive or just don't want to talk then you know just again communicate that to them just say you know what I am not ready to talk right now about whatever confrontation you might have with them or whatever problem but always remember to be kind to them because maybe it's their first time away from home and they don't really know how to act around other people. The fourth thing is to engage with your roommates. I have had some roommates who just come home and are in their room the whole time don't say a word when they come out of their room and it is very awkward it's really awkward because as for me I am personally an extrovert so I always say hi to people I always kind of interact with them and it's kind of awkward when I don't really know if they hate me or not because they're not engaging with me um obviously you don't have to always engage with other people and if you're not feeling it then you're not feeling it and you don't always have to say hi or whatnot but I've just learned from in the past you build a lot better relationships if you actually engage in conversation and engage in watching movies or doing things like that with your roommates. The fifth tip is to bring service to your roommates. I have learned that when I serve I am a lot more happy and they're also a lot more willing to help me when I'm in a bind. I personally serve through baking so I bake a lot for my roommates and I just text them and say hey you're welcome to have some banana bread or peach cobbler or hey I just made cookies do you want one and I've just noticed it brightens up their day a lot more and they're just a lot more engaging friendly common courtesy like have common courtesy and they communicate more with you when you serve them and also are willing to willing to take some service as well. This these are obviously not required for you to do but I've just found that these are the best ways to have the best experience. Again I'll go over them the one is rules and communication second is common courtesy third friendly fourth engaging and fifth service. Thank you guys so much for tuning in. Have a good night.