Speaker 1: Ryan asks, how can you claim family first but work 19 hours a day? How can you be a good dad-hubby and rarely be home?

Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is a great question. And I like the zing of the hashtag at the end. What's his name? His name is Ryan. Ryan, let me explain something to you, partner, and everybody else who asks me about this question. This is a very legit question, and so I'm not angry or looking to zing back because you're right. This has a lot to do with decisions that my wife and I have made about the way I storytell my life versus the way I storytell my private life. You know, I look at things in net game form, right? For example, let's just, as a matter of fact, this is actually very convenient. Didn't even think about this because I didn't really know the questions today. Let's just zoom it in, DRock. Let's just zoom in where I was this morning because I worked out at six, right? You tell me when, and you may not be able to pull it off. You think you're gonna be able to pull it off?

Speaker 1: Can you hold it closer?

Speaker 2: I can.

Speaker 1: Yeah, a little bit more. Yep. Yep, and there we are.

Speaker 2: Good. So look, look at this. Ha ha ha. I went to the kindergarten play today, right? I went to the kindergarten play. As a matter of fact, I was there a half an hour early to be first in line at the kindergarten play this morning, and you know, look, oh look. Look at this stuff that I never share, and this one you're gonna have to blur out, DRock, because this is the point of the answer, but here we go. Let's just see the last couple of videos that were taken. Look, look at these videos. Look at these videos of, you know, kids singing. You know, kids singing. Yeah, kids. My friends, here's what this one comes down to, and I have enormous amounts of empathy and self-awareness to why this question is asked all the time, and when I talk about 19 hour days, and when DRock and I and Staphon put out a day in the life video, and it shows all this, and nobody wants to envy it, I'm playing in extremes. First and foremost, when there are important events like this, you know, the kind of things that my dad never came to, because he set the foundation to it, I'm there, I'm at the play, I'm at the recital, I'm at this, I'm there. On weekends, I'm all in. All in, my friends. All in on weekends, right? I'm not playing four hours of golf, like a lot of you. I'm not doing a lot of other things that a lot of people are doing. I'm all in on the kids, right? Then I'm taking, oh, I don't know, seven? Seven weeks of vacation? Which is probably in the ballpark of four or five weeks more than you, right? More than you, which is high quality time all in every second. And so, yes, maybe I'm playing Monday through Friday, you know, 40 weeks a year at an intensity that's different, but I have found my cadence, my rhythm, my balance with my spouse and my children predicated on playing it that way. And I'm finding a lot of quality time with them in these extremes. And so, you know, I think, I never judge or ask or tell anybody how to raise their family or do their thing. The other thing I've decided is, unlike a lot of my contemporaries and a lot of social media experts who, I don't think, exploit their kids on social networks, but I would say are intriguing about being so obsessed with getting likes and hearts that they know when they use their cute kids, they get more, it's kind of, I've been in many conversations, sitting right here at conferences, I'm right here, but I'm listening always, you know, because that's how I roll, and I'm doing my thing. And I've heard many people talk about strategies around how, oh, put your kids in stuff, you'll get more likes. I'm like, really? So, you know, I've chosen, my wife has chosen, we have chosen to, you know, as you guys know, there are very few pictures or any kind of public pictures of my wife or my kids. It's just what's comfortable to us. So I'm very self-aware about the rationale to why people may question my ability to be a good dad or do my thing. The other part of this answer is, missions enter three and six. This is the system, and they were two and five, five seconds ago, and da-da-da-da-da. You know, as things evolve, as they're in softball and soccer and football and this and that, you know, I'll adjust, and my schedules will change. And, you know, a big thing in 2016 I've been giving a lot of thought to is coming home every day at 5 p.m. for 30, 40 minutes to eat or bathe in. So I'll adjust, and I'll try, and I'll hustle, and I'll work, and I'll continue to always struggle with work-life balance, given my happiness, my ambition, my selfishness around work. However, there are a lot more things going on here than just the things you're making assumptions on, rightfully so, given the content that I'm putting out. But that's why even that video we talked about and ended with, and big ups to Alex on our team to push this, which really made that video whole, which was, that's me, do you. And so, I feel super cozy about the time allocation. I would also argue, my friend, about quality, because plenty of people who work nine to five come home, drink a beer, watch TV, play video games, and spend, oh, I don't know, six seconds yelling at their kids to do homework. And so, there's quantity, which I like to think I'm maybe playing a good game on, on extremities. And then there's also quality. Like, you know, actually having a relationship, like actually having a conversation, actually spending quality time, actually looking them in the eye, actually, actually, actually. So, that's my answer to that question, friends. ♪♪♪ ♪♪♪