Grief Has No Rules: Let Yourself Feel It All (Full Transcript)

[00:00:00] Speaker 1: Is there something you've learned in your grief that would be helpful for others? Well, the main thing I would just tell people is allow yourself all the different things that you feel in losing somebody. You do crazy things when you lose somebody. Don't judge yourself. Let yourself be angry or let yourself not feel anything. Don't feel guilty. Just allow all your cells and all of your being to go through its process. I mean, I cried more for Fred years after he died. It was like I was in such shock losing him and I had so much responsibility and I had two young children and financially we were at an all-time low. And then my brother died a month later. So a lot of the things that I felt, you know, were more intense years later. And that's okay. Yeah, there's no rules. And there shouldn't be any rules. And there's all of these phrases like, time heals all wounds. It doesn't. Don't look to be healed. You have a sacred wound, take care of it. Don't let it get infected. But it's not necessarily going to heal. You just learn to live with it. There's no rules in grief. No, I don't think there should be.